NC is a “no-fault” state, which means that either party can obtain a divorce if the parties have been separated for at least one year. A court can grant her the divorce whether you answer the divorce complaint or not.
Regarding the issue of the granting of the divorce, there is no advantage to pointing out that you have tried to reconcile. What will matter to the court is only that your wife wants the divorce and whether you have been separated for one year.
My advice is to move on with your life.
David L. McGuire
The Rosen Law Firm
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 200
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
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