Thank you, cc2.
I feel I have come this far and I will not back down, esp if what he offers is not fair or just. My X handled all the family finances for 20 years, I have worked at the same job for that time and our % split of income was 15% me, 85% him. He did not pay SS/CS for one year. How did he think the kids and I survived?? He knew what our household budget was like and what bills we had. Did he care. He did not even send enough to cover lunch money.
I think his goal was to put me in financial ruin that I would be forced to sell the marital home or change jobs, work two jobs, whatever…
How did I survive- through loans from family and friends, debts to banks, running up credit cards and running down my credit score quickly. When he finally made a portion of the back support this fall (because the judge made him take it from an account or my lawyer was authorized to withdraw it) I used that money to pay back my loans to family and friends, pay my lawyer and pay for my our two children who are in college. I had very little left. And despite what the judge said, he continued to not send any monthly support.
Hopefully he will pay up before he is sent to jail, but if he has to go, then he had his chance and he made that decision. He cannot blame it on me.