I have 3 children with the ex. A 15 year old girl, a 9 year old girl, and a 6 year old boy. For the first 12 months that we were separated the oldest lived with me and the other 2 spent every other week with me. It was even in our separation agreement that way, although I put in there that the oldest could visit her mother any time she wanted (she “hated” her then). 5 months ago my oldest changed her mind and wanted to go to her mom’s. I let her, and she’s been there ever since (“hates” me now - teenagers blah). The other 2 have remained on the same schedule for a year and a half now.
My question is this: The divorce went through 2 weeks ago. We have mediation for the kids this week. She says that she is going to try to get full custody. Will the court do that, or does she have to prove that the current arrangements are bad first? How does the separation agreement factor in? The kids have settled nicely into their routine and we have always refrained from speaking negatively about the other household in front of them because I don’t want them to be uncomfortable in either place. I even had my son’s Kindergarden teacher compliment us last week on us keeping our personal issues from affecting them as much as we have. She said to keep doing whatever we were doing because it was working great. I am scared of losing my kids though.