What if both parents wants custody–can you have temp custody before the actual separation–I don’t want to live my house w/o my child–but we can’t agree–I can’t even start legal separation w/o the basics.


bump… help!!!


Its really simple, first of all you are a man trying to get his child, AINT GONNA HAPPEN, If there is not a court order already in place as far as custody and visitation then she can move where ever. Apparently she has moved on and so should you. All allegations must be proven. what prrobably will happened is that you will get visitation but you will be responsible for picking up and returning the child home.


I forgot, if you want a Attorney to respond then you should be brief and get straight to the question


in august my now ex fiancee and i moved to NC from ny, i lived with her, my daughter and her parents for about two months, i moved back to ny because we broke up and i had nowhere else to go (i had trouble finding work, eventually found it, but it wouldnt pay the bills)

now its april, my daughter will be 11 months old (born in may) and my ex wants to move again to florida, i already pay support in NC, and i will continue to do so until im told to stop. now my ex has met another man, and after seeing him for a month decides that they are gonna get married, i dont know this guy and i fear that she dosent either, i have no idea what he does or how much money he has, or even if he knows what he wants, i havent yet spoken to him, or her, for that matter since she told me that my calls were unwelcome and that i was “dead” to her and my daughter.

she has started seeing an attorney to setup visitation priveleges and has come up with some ridiculous things to say about me
i recieved a summons claiming that im a drug abuser, that my freinds are drug abusers, that i cant provide a safe home for her (we both have the exact same situation, i live with my parents right now to get back on my feet after placing all my income in the two moves that i had to make)etc.

she wants visitation every other weekend for half days, supervised.
this is ludicrous in my eyes, and i want full custody for her because i have better means to raise her financially (she does not have a job right now and lives off of whatever her parents and boyfreind give her, also my child support), as well as an extended family to help me care for her (the only family she speaks to are her parents, older folks, mother suffers from emphysema, and her brother, who is twenty years older and lives two counties away) , not to mention a better standard of living, (they live out in pamlico county in a trailer {modular home} and i live on long island in a two story house), better schools and lower crime rates also.

shes also taken to slandering me and defaming my character online, but i can handle that.
my questions are:
is she allowed to move even further away from me?
can i restrict her movement to inside of nc or in her home county?

i dont want my daughter to be a ping pong ball and i definitely dont like the fact that my ex and her new man are moving so fast, as a result this will be the third time in five years shes gotten engaged and this trend will likely mess my child up.

shes not a bad mother at all and i dont have anything against her getting a boyfreind, im just frustrated at the speed in which this is all going. i dont want to ‘take the baby away’ per se, i just believe i can offer her a better life up here in the city.

do i have a shot at all at custody?