Generally, you are both responsible for debt incurred during the marriage. You can divide responsibility for these debts up between yourselves either by entering into a written, signed and notarized separation agreement or by filing a lawsuit to have a judge make a division of debts in equitable distribution. (This will determine the responsibility between you and your spouse, but the creditor could still pursue whoever obligated himself or herself directly to the creditor, so if he accepts responsibility for any debt that is in your name, you will need to make sure he is required to protect or reimburse you in the event he doesn’t pay and the creditor pursues you personally.) Keep in mind that, if you want to get the debts divided up either of these ways, you will need to do so before a judgment of absolute divorce is entered. Absolute divorce will cut off your right to seek division of the debts. Either of you could file for absolute divorce one year from the date you left. For more information about property and debt division in a question-and-answer format, follow this link: http://www.rosen.com/faq/siteserve/ppf/cat/6/faq.asp#192
Regarding your alienation of affections question, I don’t believe either of you would have a claim based on people you are involved with since separation. However, it is possible to sue someone for criminal conversation (a third party’s sexual relations with someone still married to you) after separation but before absolute divorce. For more information from NCDivorce.com about alienation of affections or criminal conversation, follow this link: http://www.rosen.com/alienationofaffection/
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