If you go before this judge again, have your attorney file a Motion to Recuse the assigned judge for her bias against you if you believe that it affected your hearing.
Yes, your ex can be held in contempt of court for this behavior.
I am sorry to hear about your loss of precious time with your children. Being out of work, not having sufficient funds, going to jail, and missing your children is no fun. My suggestion is this…get a job, any job, even if it is fast food for now. Do all you can to pay your child support on time. Then, take her to court on your own for a Motion and Order to Show Cause. Best of luck.
Janet L. Fritts
Attorney with Rosen Divorce
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
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