Greetings. Funds spent on the home are entirely marital. The funds used to pay off your spouse’s car are a distributional factor, which the court can take into account to determine whether or not your wife should get half of the assets.
Also, yes, your spouse can obtain the divorce in your absence, but you will want to let her know your whereabouts, so that she can send you an acceptance of service which you will need to sign with a notary. Otherwise, I imagine that serving you will be a large task. Best of luck.
Janet L. Fritts
Attorney with Rosen Divorce
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
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