Greetings. First, I am sorry to hear that some attorneys in your area did not apprise you of all your options. Divorce from bed and board can be an expensive lawsuit to wage, which may be why they failed to mention it.
If you are scared of him and he has threatened you with harm or hit you, you may be able to file a domestic violence action. If not, your best bet is the Divorce from Bed and Board. Excessive alcohol and drug use is something the courts look to. He has in essence constructively abandonned you and left you at home to fend for yourself while he did drugs. Best of luck…
Janet L. Fritts
Attorney with Rosen Divorce
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
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