I got married 2.5 years ago and was immidietly sent overseas unaccompanied. Three months later my new wife bought a house in Virginia in her name (loan ,deed, everything). I sent her $500/mo which was half of the $940 mortgage payment every month. She also had a roomate that paid $550/mo the whole time I was gone. 2.5-3 months after purchasing the home, she was laid off and started collecting unemployment (which just ran out last month- she hasnt worked in a year). I left almost 2 weeks after we were married for 2 years. We arrived in NC in August last year and purchased a home in September. The loan is in my name, but since NC is a marital state, she is on the deed ( i believe). We are looking at getting a divorce and she will be vindictive I imagine. Also, I bought a used car a month before I came home that cost $9000. I sent her $4000 and she financed the other so my car is in her name. I also bought two fire arms while overseas a hand gun and a rifle, which I sent her the money for and she bought so that she could pick them up. we also have no kids.
I Guess my questions are:
- does it matter who files for dicvorse?
- will one state’s property laws govern both properties or their respective state?
- Which state would be better for me to file in?
- Can she take my car and weapons?
- Do i have to worry about alimony?
I am not looking to take anything she owns or any part of it. I just want to keep what is rightfully mine. I would like to reconcile but with her alcohol issues I don’t think this will be possible.