Please, if you can be kind enough to hear my position where everyday the stress feels unbearable with no way out.
Married 10 yrs ago, late in life, a seemingly very good guy.
It’s a long complicated story. In hindsight, it’s apparent his supposed love turned to hate right after wed, and increasingly his real character unveiled itself as time went on. He has serious issues: obsessed by his all/everything, extremely greedy, selfish. Mood swings. Controlling. Loves to play a game of deceiving, and stab in the back.
Found he was cheating on me two yrs or so into the marriage while living with him and his mother, under his elderly mama’s roof.
I returned to my own old home, He didn’t want a divorce. We carried on like married people tho not under the same roof, waiting until mama’s passing and he said get our own home together.
Husband has a million value in stock portfolio orig. purchase long before he met me, along with a pension. He got on social security after married. Made income each yr as photographer, but he declares only a fraction of income to state/IRS. He bought cars in his own name. I wasn’t realizing he was making sure I had no security. All would be deemed his sole property.
2 yrs ago he bought a house in cash by drawing from his stocks and titled on in his name. I only bought it for myself, my daughter, and my grand daughter upon our approval we’d live in it and make it our home.His mother’s house 2 doors away. We could all be one happy family. We all sat together before he bought in agreeance he would add my name to the title of the house, and we could move in immediately, along with many other things he would do.
My very old, small home bought in 2005 way before marriage had been needing more and more repair. He at one time said he would give 10k to start refurbish. I unlike him have no money in savings, live on fixed income supporting my dgtr and grandchild who have always lived in my own old house, making it paycheck to paycheck.
So, my dgtr and I worked hard trying to get into the empty, better house husband bought for us asap. I squeezed out every dime, and borrowed some to furnish and paint new place, day and night.
His bad behavior caused me to pin him down one day, insisting to know what was going on. He said, he would never add my to title on his house, for he didn’t want my daughter to inherit some day (???) This is typical lame excuses to many more deceptive game playing.
I, by then was in too deep…
Have lived in this house with my daughter and grand child, and am not able to go back to my own old home if I wanted to for it would take huge amt of money to bring it up to a liveable standard which I no way have to do, and he knows well I don’t.
He smiles with great satisfaction knowing my back is up against a wall. Neither did I know in NC is not under the same roof one is free to see whoever they want to. I am sure while I stayed faithful, he has been having a good time like a bachelor.
He’s put me thru the wringer, causing anxiety, stress, and even bad health having to live until recently in my old home with air or heat where I had to use a walker from pains due to arthritis and sciatica,
Has eased up some living in this house.
Cruel, very mean man and trying to do what he can to make me uncomfortable as he can in this house (his) taking back his promises.
DIVORCE: I don’t have money to divorce, and he won’t divorce me because he wouldn’t want to spend a nickel. AND IF I were to divorce him, with everything being his separate property…
I fear I would be on the street with my daughter and grand daughter, for as mentioned I do not have the money or income to fix up my old home. I’d have to sell it for peanuts. Couldn’t afford another for all of us and our pets. Any rental…which is very few around here…and expensive, whatever I got in money would go fast
At age 75, this dilemna is going to kill me
I am worried stiff one day, any day, one of his affairs would stick and he’s want us OUT so he could move another IN.
I’M STUCK IN MUD …I don’t see a way out where my little family can survive.
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