Legal separation living in the same house

Any facts that would show that you both were reconciling the marriage, such as the ones you listed and any others that would show you are acting like a married couple and holding yourself out of the public as being married (both doing household chores, paying bills together, etc.).


Anna Ayscue

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Ok. So if they grant me the bed and board divorce and the mortgage is in her name. What will they do?

The mortgage or distribution of the property will not be addressed at a divorce from bed and board hearing. That will be addressed in an equitable distribution hearing.


Anna Ayscue

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But I have a possible motion to dismiss because we are no residing in the same home and have been living as husband and wife since June until August.

When doing a B.B.D who is the plaintiff if we already have a case number started by her? So far I have been the defendant.

You will likely need to file a new claim since it is based on new events and new circumstances and the time for counterclaiming has likely long since passed. And in that instance, you will be the plaintiff.


Anna Ayscue

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Her lawyer is saying that she put the ED claim in while we was physically separated. Even though she moved back in 4 months after filing it. I don’t know how much evidence it is, but I do have our ring doorbell videos showing almost every Friday us leaving together and on Saturdays we are in the front of the house doing yard work. She does not know that I have it recorded and I am not going to tell her unless she lies in court and say we did not spend time together and we did not pose to the the public that we are man and wife. I also have text messages from us both asking each other what are going to cook and so on. In your opinion do you think that is enough to get the ED dismissed?

Without knowing all of the facts and being involved in your case, I can’t give an opinion as to whether the case could be dismissed. However, your evidence of her doing yardwork, coming and going together from the house, etc. would certainly be good evidence to support your position that you both reconciled the marriage and so the one-year separation period should start over.


Anna Ayscue

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Briefly. We had a domestic altercation on Feb 18th and she was restrained from the house until about mid June. She did the ED then when we was living apart. After she returned home we kind of picked up doing the same things we did before she left. Dinner outings, Lowe’s and Home Depot trips. Cooking and doing each other’s laundry. Working on the yard together. Just things to that nature. The only thing that changed is we slept in separate rooms for the time being. I have video and text messages of everything I just stated. She is going to say we was not reconciling, but evidence shows different. But we held our self out in public and in the neighborhood as man and wife. Now she isn’t doing none of that. So from Feb to June we was separated. From June to August we was reconciling. Now she has ended all communication with me (my grounds for Divorce of Bed and Board.

It sounds like you have a lot of evidence to show that the separation period should be restarted due to the reconciliation period. Be sure to present as much evidence to this point as you can.


Anna Ayscue

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I feel I have enough evidence to show that we was reconciling, but if they restart the separation period and we are still in the same house, we are not separated until someone leave by choice or by court ordered correct? And if the court deemed we was reconciling will the ED get dismissed due to reconciliation, rather she agree or disagree that we was? If the ED is dismissed that is when I am filing the B.B.D for the recent treatment she has been displaying.

Correct, you are not separated until one of the parties’ moves out of the marital residence and at least one of the parties has the intent to remain permanently separate and apart.

The originally filed ED action should be dismissed if the court finds and rules that the marriage was reconciled and there is now no date of separation.

You can file a claim for divorce from bed and board before you are separated or after you are separated.


Anna Ayscue

Attorney with Rosen Law Firm Cary • Chapel Hill • Durham • Raleigh • Wake Forest

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