My wife has been having an affair with a married man and she is seeking a divorce. I have a lawyer on retainer. She is unaware that I know about the affair and unaware that I have a lawyer, but I plan to confront her and have her sign a separation agreement that gives me physical custody of our children and permission to move them out-of-state. I wish to move out of the state with them during the separation as I feel this is in the children’s best interest. Would this affect jurisdiction over anything, or would it cause any problems for me legally?
Additionally, if she won’t initially sign the agreement (which I believe she won’t because she wants custody) would it be considered coercion or undue influence if I present her with the plethora of evidence I have against her and the paramour, tell her she would never get custody if it was taken to court and that I would have no choice but to present the evidence to her federal government employer, his federal government employer, and his wife?