My wife got a job offer in California earning 4X the salary I was earning after being laid off in Jan. I hoped this would be a good move for us, but it has gone south fast.
Who will preside over a separation agreement/custody? My understanding is we need to be in CA for 6 months before CA can preside? Will I need to return to NC to file custody - and then do it again in CA after 6 months?
Also: we agreed that I should quit my job and move us and our belongings to CA. I’m currently unemployed and because I covered all of the moving costs, I’m also totally broke and facing bankruptcy. It’s getting ugly people . . . and I don’t know what to do. My wife is miserable, and angry at me - basically over not earning enough to support a more plush lifestyle. I have always held a job, was laid off in Jan which started the downward spiral. My wife hasn’t worked for 5 years, but has a high earning potential and currently earns over 125K.
My fear is that she will force me to leave, I will become basically homeless, and then she will argue that I am unfit parent and try to take full custody and controll my relationship with my son. I am scrambling to find a job and housing quick . . .
What are my options to protect my son from her taking him from me? I have done absolutely nothing wrong and just want my fair (50%) joint custody. I am willing to live and find work in the same town, I just want to raise my son with values stronger than judging people by dollar signs.
Thank you for your help.