My spouse has been threatening divorce, that there has been contact with an attorney for the last few months, and threatening to remove financial support. Due to medical difficulties my doctors have deemed me unable to work full time but I do work part time, with some accommodations. My spouse is the primary breadwinner and makes around 3 times or so more than I do. There has been no misconduct on my part, meaning no adultery, no abuse, no drugs, etc. I suspect there may have been adultery, or at least the opportunity for it, on my spouse’s side but I have no proof. We have separate bank accounts but the majority of the income goes into “my” account which is essentially the household account. All bills, groceries, everything comes out of this account. My spouse has been threatening to remove that money and put all their income into their own account and leave me with nothing but my part time income. They are also threatening to leave the home. My spouse wants an amicable divorce which it will not be, I would be left with so little income I couldn’t even afford a place to live, and I ha e no family or friends to help me.
Is this legal, can my spouse do this? Would I have recourse to prevent this? Would I be likely to get alimony? I need to know my rights in a nutshell, as this could happen at any moment.
I know it’s best to actually get with an attorney and go over details but if my spouse found out it would be a bad situation. They are already somewhat verbally abusive and has pushed me into a wall before. Nothing more serious than that physically, but i am frequently called derogatory names, and despite my illnesses (autoimmune) has called me lazy and expects me to do everything at home because I only work part time. The house is not worth what was paid for it and my spouse thinks there will be money left from selling it, which I don’t think there will be. There is also a lot t of pushing and interference by my mother in law for my spouse to do these things.
I am frightened I will be left homeless and broke.