My wife and I are separated. We share 50/50 custody of the children and the calendar was marked that I will have them Easter Sunday. My wife asked if she could have them for a few hours on that day but also told me she wanted the kids to spend time with her and her boyfriend that day.
We have been separated for 8 months but I do not want my children around him right now and I don’t see how this will be of any interest to the kids. I told my wife I was not comfortable with this and asked if she could please not have the kids around him until we are divorced. She replied she understood my concerns but was not asking and she was their mother and would not put in a situation that would be detrimental to them.
The issue is I don’t honestly trust her and I don’t think she puts the kids number one priority based on some actions she has done in the past.
I want to tell her that I will not release the kids to her on Easter Sunday if the children are going to be around him. Would this be ill-advised? How does NC courts view having children around a spouse’s boyfriend/girlfriend before you are divorced? Would it be ill-advised to warn her of a Alienation of Affection claim against her boyfriend if she does not compromise? I have emails and witnessed that support their relationship before we separated.
Note: Our separation agreement does not say anything about dating or having the children around boyfriends/girlfriends. Also I am not in a relationship or have been.