Greetings. Answers to your questions, based on NC law:
The separate assets you had were spent on marital expenses, and therefore were “gifted” to the marriage and are gone.
Find an attorney that will return your calls within 2 days at the latest. Also, I think that you should get a job that works best for you, as far as income.
I do not know of any 5 and 9 rule. Best of luck and keep your head up!
Janet L. Fritts
Attorney at Law
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
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