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To answer your questions, yes, primary custody is something that is possible for you. A court would make that decision based on what it feels is in the best interests of your children. However, evidence of his drinking, and depression, as well as your role as the primary care giver, would be key in gaining primary custody of your children. A visitation schedule could be worked out from there.
As far as child support is concerned, even a person without a job has a child support obligation. While it is miminal, it can always be adjusted, based on a substantial change in circumstances, once his income increases. You should either contact a lawyer, or social services to get started on a child support order.
In terms of your privacy, the only thing you should really be concerned about is visitation with your children. Otherwise, you have no reason to tell him about the other aspects of your life.
Dating is always a concern of separated parties. As you have read, dating during the separation is not recommended. Dating while you are still married can subject you to a claim for alienation of affections or criminal conversation. If you have a separation agreement, a waiver of third party claims to lawsuits of alienation of affections and criminal conversation (and other similar acts) can be written in to protect you from those kinds of actions.
I hope that helps. Good luck!
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