I have a 16 month old daughter as well as 3 other children. I share legal custody with my ex under our current temporary order. We have a permanent hearing scheduled for April.
My ex and I have had a terrible time since very early on. We were only actually together for a few weeks before the abuse began and I left. He’s been verbally and emotionally abusive and is unable to ever discuss important issues pertaining to our daughter. I have tried my best to facilitate visitation except during a brief period of time during which I’d needed a DVPO. I ultimately withdrew it but regretted doing so.
At any rate, my family is planning a trip to visit my brother and his wife in Portugal. I asked my ex for his permission to obtain a passport for our daughter. He refused to discuss it and after I persisted, he refused to allow it. His initial reason was because he is unhappy with our temporary order (I’ve allowed him to deviate from it based on his wishes for the past 4 months.) Now he says it’s unsafe to travel there and that’s why he’s blocking it. From my experience, he is using this as a power play.
Not sure if any if this is relevant, but I remarried the father of my other 3 children and he’s raising my 16 month old and fully supporting her and has from her birth. My ex lives in PA and sees my daughter on average every 7 weeks or so. I’ve paid for his Airbnb and recently told him to keep his child support money (no order but he sporadically pays between $200 and $400/mo,) and use it for his travel expenses.
Do I need to wait until our April hearing to address the passport issue or do I have any other recourse? The trip is planned for late March, early April. My ex is now telling me he sees no point in coming to visit her between now and the permanent hearing at the end of April, which makes no sense to me either.