Property division

Purchases made close to the time of separation can be examined further by the court. Since this purchase was made for his sole use and benefit without your input, it is possible that the court may attribute that debt solely to him.

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You may want to check credit card records too. If he purchased the sports car, then it is likely he spent $ on this girlfriend too. If you can find records of any purchases—restaurants, hotels, gifts— that you did not know about for the benefit of a paramour, then you can get that back. This did not work for me, but it’s supposed to!

We are in the process of property division. One month before he left the home and began separation he purchased a brand new sports car (He did this on his own, He just drove it down the driveway one night. I knew nothing of the purchase.)About 2 weeks later he drove in our driveway with his affair partner in the car (of course at that time I did not who she was, he said a friend from work, I had no reason to not trust him)Anyways 2 weeks after that he leaves the home and goes to live with the affair partner. About one month he sells the sports car for a 9 K loss.

Can I argue that this loss should all be given to him, citing he bought the car to entertain his affair partner. Especially since I had no input in the buying of the car and he did take her for drives (and yes he was bold enough to even drive her in our driveway and have her meet our 10 year old before he left the home)Yes, I was completely blindsided