You can determine the equity by any method you are comfortable with and the two of you agree to. If you were in court, the court would look at the decrease in the principle balance of the mortgage while you were living together, and any increase in the value of the house due to your active efforts The court will also take into account any debt that was created to increase the value. The cost of the repair is not necessarily the value of the repair.
Based on what you describe it does not appear you would owe her post separation support and therefore would not owe funds to help her get set up in an apartment. You should review your facts with an attorney to confirm that this is the case.
See my response to question number 2.
You are not obligated to reimburse her or her family for the cost of the wedding.
You can request to see the credit card statements and only debts incurred for marital purposes are marital debts.
Helena M. Nevicosi
Attorney with Rosen Law Firm
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