There are no generic QDRO forms available. A QDRO is specific to each retirement plan. If you are going to attempt to do this on your own, you will need to contact the administrator of the retirement plan and request the Summary Plan Description, generally that document contains a sample QDRO, but if it does not, it will contain the instructions on what should be included.
Unless the plan prohibits you from doing so, you may change the beneficiary of your insurance policies at any time, however if you die before the divorce is final and you each have not waived your right to these accounts in the separation agreement, then some of those funds may go to your spouse anyway.
You can designate bank account information in the separation agreement. If you are trying to make changes to the ownership of the account, the bank may have its own documents it requires you to sign.
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