If you recall, my fiance’s STBX has been stalling the separation/divorce process and refusing to neotiate and sign a separation agreement for three yrs. He is now less than 9 months from the complete “official” separation, documented with her written electronic communication to him. Since that time he has lived in the apt he has had for almost two years. She still refuses to negotiate a separation agreement and has permitted him only a handful of overnights with the children and dinner or driving them to events once or twice a week when it suited her schedule, often making or breaking plans at the last minute. She remained in the family home and has not worked or contributed to mortgage, living, etc. About a week ago he took a phone call from her and she informed him she was leaving the family home in 48 hrs, turning full care of the children over to him at that time, was moving into an apartment (she refuses to give him the address), and would no longer have anything to do with the children unless she decided that driving them to events fit into her schedule but she has not requested any overnights nor has she requested taking them to her apartment. (We have no proof that she has an apartment, only her verbal statement via telephone.) My fiance at this point is back to staying in the family home to minimize the disruption to the children at her leaving them, their schooling, their friends, etc.
She has exhibited impulsive behavior throughout so this latest twist seems abrupt, a bit odd. If she has not gotten an apartment and has only gotten a hotel room or moved in with a friend for awhile (she took clothing but little or nothing else when leaving), there is no written documentation of her moving out, and her STBX-husband has moved back into the house to stabilize life for the children until he can put the house up for sale - can she claim he has returned to the home and that they have reconciled (her word against his) if she has not officially changed her address? Given the current status is my fiance’ in danger of her manipulating the situation in a manner that the “one year clock” will need to be started all over again?