How can a North Carolina resident get a same sex divorce?
Same sex marriages are not currently recognized by the state of North Carolina, and neither are divorces. As such, you cannot obtain a same sex divorce in North Carolina.
Same-sex divorce is one of the most complicated and least discussed aspects of the gay rights movement. The relationship ends. Where can the couple divorce? The surprising answer is nowhere.
You should contact a lawyer in the state in which you were married and see if you can submit yourselves to jurisdiction there for the purposes of divorce even if you no longer reside there.