You or your agent (your dad) can pick up the car since the car belongs to you. Understand that the car is marital property is the equity may be divided (although a new car that is financed generally has little, if any, equity) so you may owe her a few dollars if she pushes on the property distribution issue. Finally, I am only licensed in North Carolina and have no idea what the New York law may be on taking the car so I would suggest that you run the issue by a New York lawyer before sending your dad up there to pick up the car. I would hate to find out that he had violated some criminal law in New York. Good luck.
Lee S. Rosen
Board Certified Family Law Specialist
The Rosen Law Firm
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 200
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
NCdivorce.com
(919)787-6668
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