I don’t think that there is any way to do this. There should be a separate address. Divorce is granted in NC for only two reasons: One year separation and incurable insanity. Since there are no other reasons for granting divorce there is no way around this.

I can understand the frustration with this but it’s not really as bad as it sounds, especially if children are involved. The children need this time to get used to both parents not being around as much or visiting non-custodial parent. There’s also an adjustment period if either parent begins to date…it’s alot to get used to for children. Though they adapt more easily that we would realize they do need to be given the chance to adapt to the situation. That can not happen if the parents do not separate. It’s difficult for them to understand regardless of the circumstances but more so if you are trying to get them to understand that you don’t want to be married anymore but don’t mind living together or being involved in each other’s lives on a daily basis…

I’m sorry to hear of your circumstances, but there is no way to waive the separation requirement.

Helena M. Nevicosi
Attorney with Rosen Law Firm

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Are there any circumstances under which a couple would not have to live separately before divorce? Our children have been through a lot of changes in the past few years (moving, my serious illness), so we want to keep their lives as normal as possible. We are building an apartment with a separate entrance in our basement so my husband can live there after the divorce. Is there any way to get a