Greetings. I think that there may be a significant risk of harm to your child if she has the child in her care. Depending on the circumstances and the proof you have of her actual behavior - you may be able to file a domestic violence action, but the better action would be a divorce from bed and board and emergency child custody.
Also, you may want to consider leaving, until you can come to an agreement on the house and other issues. This will allow you to ensure the safety of your son, even if it does feel bad for the time being.
By staying with your wife, you are condoning her affair. Thank you.
Janet L. Fritts
Attorney with Rosen Divorce
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Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
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