Friend desperately needs help!


I think some one does not like me. [^] [B)] [xx(]

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Dear mlk9399:

Greetings. The information on the affair is helpful to her in the separation process and in negotiating for alimony. He cannot keep her legally from seeing the children, although the threat is very real.

She needs to retain an attorney and put some of the marital money/funds into an account that he cannot touch. Thank you.

Janet L. Fritts
Attorney with Rosen Law Firm

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I have recently found out that my best friend has been verbally and at times physically abused by her husband in front of the children. He has threatened and intimidated her into staying with him and being obedient to whatever he says. Since she has been very private about this, there are no police reports or proof of abuse. Recently, he has pushed her and caused some bruising. Should she photograph this? She is too afraid to call the police.

She is a strong person under normal circumstances, but he has her paralyzed with fear, so much that she’s afraid to take any action.

She has found out that he is having an affair although he doesn’t know that she is aware of this. How crucial is it that she have evidence of this?

He is a very private person and is very concerned about his career and how he looks to society. He has told her she will never see the kids if he leaves her.

Verbal abuse and threats come and go in the marriage, but neither has brought up divorce yet.

She is a stay at home mom with only his income to support her. What action does she need to take right now? He is taking a law course and I’m afraid he might make a move first that would be devastating for her.

Thank you so much for your advice.