The process you are going through is one filled with uncertainty and it is normal for you to feel confused and scared. Have you tried participating in any support groups withj others in your same situation?
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I hope you’re keeping a journal, tape recording this (and yes, that is admissable in court, so long as you’re aware that you’re recording, if it were a third party recording both of you and you were both unaware, it would not be admissable) and ensuring you have everything down. Keeping a journal and documenting everything is huge and can/will be used against your ex. I’d file a no contact order with these threats, that your ex can only contact you through you’re attorney. What you’re experiencing is harrassment, plain and simple. You should be able to get a no contact order easily.
In regards to the ex giving me an ammendent to our existing agreement in regards to changing the custody schedule, decreasing the alimony and communicating threats. Basically I was told that I’m golden until serviced with a civil summons or complaint. My attorney is writing a formal letter on my behalf indicating that I am not signing his proposal and that if the threats do not stop then I will seek criminal charges. She asked me how he would respond and if it will make matters worse. How can it get worse than constantly being told that the checks will stop, I’m going to take you out, I’m going to plan drugs in your house and have you raided, I’m going to make your son hate you forever, I’m going to burn you, you are a ■■■■■, pieace of ****, poor white trash, etc… so I think it is the right thing to do. And now to top it off using our son as a weapon. She did tell me to participate in T-ball because that could look bad on me if I don’t. And it looks good that I am the one that got the ex the coach posisiton in the first place and got him involved. I do feel better, but I still feel sad, confused and scared.