Sole custody

Dear nancyrich:

Greetings. Sole custody means sole decision making. Now, I will tell you that yes, you apparently (going only on what you say about the agreement) have the right to determine if there will be any visitation at all. But, please remember that if you do not allow him to visit, even if his new girlfriend/wife is present, then he could easily go to court and get a lot more visitation then you are currently providing.

As distasteful as his behavior is, it does not say anything directly about him as a father - at least not when your daughter is age 4. Thank you.

Janet L. Fritts
Attorney with Rosen Divorce
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What exactly is sole custody, my first ex and I have joint with me having primary custody, now with second ex I have sole custody- he has a 17 year old girl friend pregnant whom I want our 4 year old to have no part of because of a comment that she made toward our daughter. Do I have to let her see him? There is no formal visitation, our separation agreement(incorporated into our divorce) says that visitation has to be mutualy agreed upon by both parties. Besides spending the night with my mother our daughter has never been away from me. We have been apart for three years and she has NEVER spent any time alone with her father.