We are in a situation where we have been married 29 years but we have been living separately for over 6 years. I cannot afford to give her half of what I make. I am currently working 3 jobs and paying college tuition for 2 kids and I cannot afford to pay her everything to. She lost her last job over 6 years ago and thinks I owe her now so she will not work. I know it is solely because she wants every penny she can. I do not want to be unfair. I know I have a responsibility but I feel she does too. I told her that if she can get a job and get on her own two feet and start her life, then I will make up the difference so that we are living on an equal amount of income. I do not want to work 3 jobs. Also on average, how many years do I need to give her alimony. I am so tired of this and just want to move on with my life but I feel like I am prison waiting for her to start taking responsibility for herself.