We separated in March 2009 and neither of us have field for divorce. We do not have a signed consent order yet I am the custodial parent and he works in TN, visiting them every other weekend while he still has a residence here. He is not paying child support and has given me no money since August 2009. We just had a fight because he said he is going to start working here for 1 week out of the month and he wants the kids for that whole week and I said we needed to talk about it because it seemed disruptive to their current routine (ages 9 and 2). He said he is going to get an attorney and try to get full custody and even maybe move them to TN.
My question is whether he can really do that, given that they’ve been with me except for every other weekend and a few visits during the week when he still worked here. He says that since he is their father he can take them any time he wants to and that I cannot stop him since we don’t have a custody agreement in place. He says he knows all these lawyers in TN, blah, blah. I’m scared.