I am non custodial parent, live in another State, children in North Carolina. We meet halfway for the exchange with the following set by the Judge: I get my children Spring break, every other Christmas and Thanksgiving, 10 days after school is out and return 2 weeks before school resumes, one three day weekend a month (my choice) when they have day off of school.
Now the issues: my ex wanted children for weekend of birthday and I stated I had plans but was willing to let them go if only I could have extra make up days, ex refused. I had birthday party on another day because I had to work (on the acutual birthday day but had days off prior to this day) and now Ex is threatening to take me back to court. Ex states I should have requested this day off. Ex is complaining no time with children during summer (ex has 24 summer days plus the other months) Ex also states the three day visit is too much for our children and I should go to NC to see them. My children never complain about this, but have heard Ex and others complain about this, they told me. My children were in counseling prior to this summer because they told Ex they want to live with me. I pushed for this to get my children help dealing with this divorce and wanting to live with me, not the EX.
My question does my EX have grounds for change of visitation just because I work on certain days when my children are with me? This has been an issue before and I spoke then with my attorney and he stated that when the children are with me they are in my care and Ex can’t dictate our life, so to speak, on anything unless emergency issues. My EX doesn’t work weekends and I am a nurse and my work schedule obviously isn’t like the EX’S. My children look forward to our visits and with the issues they have wanting to live with me, if the EX does accomplish this would devastate them. My children understand that I have to work and have no issue with this at all.
Please advise how to handle this, wait and see if he files, and not respond back to the email I recieved about this threat?