Greetings. I am sorry that you have not received any good options yet. Sometimes, the only options open to someone are bad options, but making a decision and pushing forward with some action usually produces some good options.
First, contact North Carolina Child Support Enforcement and file a claim for child support. They can locate him. Also, you can file an action for equitable distribution and do a motion for interim distribution asking the court to allow you to sell the marital residence and forcing your spouse to come and sign the deed. The court can vest him of title if he does not sign.
The equitable distribution action will also help to determine liability for marital debts. Best of luck.
Janet L. Fritts
Attorney with Rosen Divorce
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607