You must not have an attorney or, if you do then you should fire him. ED should have been started within 30-90 days of seperation/divorce filing. Those are the court rules that the attorneys are required to follow. If, the judge does not hold the attorneys accountable, you should hold the judge accountable and request that he recuse himslef from the case and have a new judge assigned. Also file a Judicial Grievence with the NC Judical Commission! DO NOT let these judges intimidate you! Hold them accountable for their actions.
CS and Custody are seperate issues but, if he was ordered to pay and has not, then file contempt charges. Also, file a "Motion For Emergency Interim Order. It is very important that you file these and make a paper trail.
If, your X has held a job previously, then they will use the amount he earned to determine his imputed income.