In my husbands separation agreement, that turned into his divorce decree, there is nothing in there about pickup/dropoff. He was divorced in the state of North Carolina. His ex wife still lives there in Elizabeth City. We have visitation every other weekend. We live in Virginia Beach. Its a 52 mile drive one way. We pick them up on a friday and drop off on a monday. We recently went to an attorney in Elizabeth City to get some clarification on this matter and others. The attorney told us that, it doesn’t state anywhere in the agreement about the pickup/dropoff, therefore both parties will be responsible…meaning we should be able to meet halfway on friday and sunday. We told his ex wife this, and she said she wouldn’t do it. So basically nothing has changed. In order for us to see the kids we have to go down and pickup and dropoff.
She told us that there is a law in place that states if the parent lives out of state, then its that parents responsibility to dropoff and pickup. I just want to know what the law says. We have been doing this for 2 1/2 years, and cannot tell you how much money, wear on our vehicles, patience we have lost over this issue. This was one of the reasons why we went to see an attorney. Even his interpretation after reading the agreement was that we are both responsible for the pickup/dropoff. If she didn’t comply, we could do a contempt of agreement.
Someone please answer this question, I am really at the end of my rope with this whole thing. She continually holds the kids against us, and its getting really old. Please, please answer, and if possible, give me the state statute that says it, so we can print out what it says and send to her.