I have been separated for about 5 years.
As part of the equitable distribution she was suppose to pay for the legal separation. She did not.
I completed / honored my part of it completely and on or before the date specified. Since then I have even helped her out when I was not legally responsible for doing so.
Our child mediation has agreed apon and sign at the same time. It was 50/50. Also since then I have even helped her out when I was not legally responsible for doing so.
During the past 5 years I have had both my children for more than half the time, for which I am very grateful.
During this time she has had a child by other man. Court records show that he has drug/criminal issues. Note last statement above…. besides loving my sons very much this is another big reason as to why I am grateful for more than the court order 50/50.
Now the kicker
A) I have never received a civil summons by certified mail, sheriff, or public notification concerning a divorce. Note I read public notices daily in my local paper and her local paper for home / property foreclosures - would have seen my name in the same section. Also note I live about a mile from her parents and I am in contact with them almost every day. They and my parents help me watch the boys when I need to go out of town for business if they can not go with me.
B) I understand from other people friends/her family that she has moved into another county across the state and has married the man mention above.
C) Can/could she have done this legally with me knowing?
D) If we are not legal divorced isn’t she in a lot of trouble for doing this…besides the fact he has court records showing has drug/criminal issues?
E) Who should I contact? What should I do? Currently both of my sons are staying with me full time at her request. I do not really want to let them go back and her parents agree. What can I do for my children?
Thanks for advice you may give me.