Sounds like you need to start reading some of the materials here on the site. We have lots of information about how this process works. Take a look and we will be more than happy to try to answer your questions.
If your husband took your separate property you can get it back and can get attorney fees up to the value of the property for having to seek its return. Criminal charges are generally not available in these situations.
Abandonment is an issue in an alimony case only. Read more about alimony to gain a further understanding of this issue.
Lee S. Rosen
Board Certified Family Law Specialist
The Rosen Law Firm
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 200
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
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