NC is a ‘no fault’ state, so trying to use fault in a divorce situation would not work. However, if you feel your life is in danger from this man, you can try to get a protective warrant from him using the emotional and physical abuse evidence. The online chats and messages show intent, but talk is very cheap online, and unless you have proof of adultry, you can’t really use that either. I would keep them for the future—just in case.
ATTORNEYS,
If a couple have been separated for over one year, divorce pending…would it be damaging to the divorce or violation of a separation if one is a member of an online dating service? I mean they are just looking and chatting.
Marital fault is generally applicable in cases where alimony is an issue. The things that you described could be considered fault for alimony cases. If you are fearful of this man you can seek a protective order which would require him to stay away from you. Your testimony would be evidence that these things had occurred.
Dating after separation and before divorce is something that should be looked at on a case by case basis given the circumstances of each case. If alimony is not an issue dating is generally not a problem, however sexual intercourse with another person is a crime until you are legally divorced. Before dating you should consult with your own legal counsel to ensure you would not be jeopardizing your legal position.
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I was just wondering if the following documentation I have would be considered fault. I have printed emails, and myspace communication with other women to and from my husband. More importantly though, I have documentation where he subscribed to an online dating service clearly stating that he wanted to meet other people. Also, he has been physically and emotionally abusive. Friends have witnessed the emotional abuse, but not the physical. I’ve never filed police reports against him. How would I prove this? Also, he’s in the Army (about to get out as soon as he returns from overseas), and I’m scared he’ll try to kill me. (He has threatened to do this if I ever left him), but again, I have no proof. Just my word against his. Any advice? Thanks so much for your time.
Marie