I have been married to a functional alcoholic for four years. We are divorcing but I have not left the house yet due to custody concerns and fear that he will take our child out of state (regardless of the law) because he has no family or friends in NC.
I am an intelligent and educated person who married a “pathological liar” in every clinical sense of the word, in addition to being a chronic alcoholic. We married after dating a short period of time. After a short time in the marriage I knew that I had made a gross error in judgement. I believed the lies until I knew better with time and inconsistencies. I found out last year that he has a documented history of DUI’s and DWI’s in another state from some time in the past. He was required by the courts to attend AA. He drinks at home behind closed doors so most people do not know that he is an alcoholic.
He looks gentle but is a very frightening person. He has become extremely verbally abusive in the last six months. I am trying to be as deliberate as possible in leaving him due to custody issues. He prides himself in “winning people over”. Thus I am concerned that he would perform well on a psychological eval. I want him to get help for our child’s sake. I have lived a very closed life since our child’s birth and will not leave our child alone with him for more than a few hours and definitely not overnight. Thus the thought of him having any form of overnight custody is unfathomable. He says that I have no proof and would hurt me if he did not get joint custody. How can I prove that he is still drinking and is an alcoholic to protect our child?