I am currently in a marriage that is in dire straights. We have 2 children 4 and 2. My wife is/and or was having an affair. It has been going on for about 9 months now. We are still together and I am doing everything in my power to make the marraige work. She says she is staying and we are going to work things out. We have moved to NC from Ohio about 15 months ago, I came here to open a business for my family (a used car lot) which I have done, and sank my entire livelyhood into making this work. The paramour has very consistantly tried to stay in contact with and continues to try to get my wife to abandoon me to be with him. I have read all the the qualifications for filing a alienation of affection and criminal conversation law suits. I do have solid proof of the criminal conversation (and then some) also can more than prove there was love and sanctity in our home prior to the acts. My first question. My wife met this guy at a local YMCA he is a personal trainer there. They have met there numerous times, used it as a meeting grounds and used his job to hide an affair. Should I go into his place of business and speak with his manager and notify them of a law suit that they potentially could be drug into. Or do I hold off until I get the case process started.
My second question is just that with any case I know there is no certainty, but if I have evidence more than what is required to bring to the table, what are the odds I would lose the case or it being dropped.
I ask for fear of my wife being upset that I file the case and potentially threaten leaving me , and yet he still get off scott free. I feel I deserve to have punutive damages against the third party as he has put not only my entire business and well being in jepordy, he has caused my children to go through a nightmare of watching this unfold. Any advice that could be given would be greatly appreciated.
Lastly, I am not concerned with myself recieving money in pursuing this case, as I am concerned with making the paramour being punished for his wrong doing. Initially are there any attourneys out there that wouldlook at a case, have confidence they have one and take there proceeds out of the damages. One guy I was reffered to charged $1,000 per hour and a $15,000 retainer fee. I know good representation costs money, but I cannot afford that. Are there any other options for me to start this process if I dont have the funds available to pay representation at those prices?