I was married nine months ago. Eight months ago my bride started emailing a friend with the military overseas. I was aware that they were friends.
The male friend returned in June. They continued to email. In August, He gave her a prized childhood possession behind my back. I discovered it a few days later and she played dumb.
October we all went on a camping trip and she disappereared for three hours after midnight from the tent. I went to look for her and found that the male friend was gone too. I searched the areas and were unable to locate either of them. I did find her back in the tent and confronted her. She said she was in the bathroom but I had checked there twice. She never did admit where she was but said she was sick.
Two weeks later, we at another weekend event and they hung around together until I asked her to stay away from him. The following day was fine. Monday I tried to get on her laptop and see if I could find any email, etc but was unable to log on. She accused me and moved out. We have been apart since.
In conversations since, she has admitted that she is in love with him. She says there is has not been any physical contact between the two. I talked to the male and he has denied anything. At this point I cannot prove anything. I do feel that her email accounts (yahoo and her work email) hold the information that I need.
I am not seeking revenge. When she left, I was getting ready for surgery and had major expenses and bills coming up. I am now in a tight financial situation. She has a job earning 45K a year but owns nothing. He is married (unhappily he told me)with two kids. He is an enlisted man in the army but should have a decent pension and salary.
My questions…Can we get her emails to see if there is anything there? can we get her work phone records? I know that the emails will be incrimidating.