In our marriage of 24 years (including 2 years of separation), we had 1 son who was 16 when my husband left. We were used to a 5000 sq. ft house $700,000 house.
He has an MBA from Yale and has been in business since before we got married. I have been a stay home Mom, looking after the kids and his parents (who generally stayed with us when not visitng their other kids - our kids grew up with their grandparents) and the house. I helped in his business but never got paid for my work.
Through poor financial practices we both had to individually file for bankruptcy in CT (his in 2004 and mine in Dec. 2007). Today, I am unemployed, have my younger son living with me and have to support him through college (starting this Sept). Older son is at NYU and Dad claims that he will support as best he can and he has to figure out the rest!
As a stay home Mom all 24 years, with an occasional W2 of 1500.00 or 15000 in 2008 when he left his business for me to run. Later checks in 2009 had to be cancelled because there was no money and he refused to honor my work.
Can I get alimony or support of some sort in the divorce papers? We sold our house and split the balance (after mortgages and 2nd mortgages/equity) 50-50. he is used to borrowing all over and has personal borrowings from his siblings. He sends me some money just now but I am worried it will stop soon after the divorce since there is nothing in the divorce as an uncontested divorce.
Should I safeguard myself in some way? My MA in education does not help as it was before marriage and I do not have a teaching certificate to teach and there are no jobs. He is forcing an uncontested divorce - if you do that I will give you some money, if you contest it then I will fight for every little asset you have! I don’t have much besides some savings from the house sale.