My husband, too has recently found that he has ADD, though it is not new, we had no clue, what the problem was. I can truly sympathize, with your situation. I have been told it is harder on those with the ADD, but no one married to someone with ADD, has ever told me that. The fact that you have had extenuating circumstances, with your mental capabilities, due to your mother’s passing and the medication, should factor in, but I am in the same boat, awaiting to get advice, I didn’t even think to post that he had ADD, although he has not been diagnosed by a doctor, he told me his counseler agreed that he did have ADD and we did a checklist and it showed that he does have it. You have my sincere sympathy over your mother’s passing. What seems morally right does not always have law to back it up. I wish you all the best and you are lucky to have a husband, to go back to. I have been with this man, for close to nine years. I have finally managed to get to the place, where I can gather my thoughts, fairly well,when writing, but speaking is another story, I fear I make little sense, after years of trying to cope with the ADD, when my own physical health has diminished and he also has been told he is passisve agressive, to boot.
I do believe you could go back to your husband, in some capacity, since I think it is common to include that you may both resume your lives, as if you were single, during the year of separation. Please, don’t fault me, if I’m wrong about that, I have done some limited research, but have never gone through a separation and divorce in this state. I am pretty sure, you could not remarry him, if the separation is required, until the year was up, though. I hope this gives you some small comfort to know that you are not alone. I know your post has helped me, to know that it is not just me and I am not a horrible person and being unreasonable. He used the ADD, last time, to keep me from leaving, the whole sickness and health thing. I just can’t allow his problem, to take it’s toll on my life and health, anymore or subject my daughter to what feels like almost constant abuse.