Let’s see here - first, congratulations at getting the house refinanced (even if you had to pay a little, this seems like a coup for you!).
No, this is not relevant.
Also, voluntarily depressing income is not the same as depressing spendable cash for the children or increasing expenses unreasonably. You would still have a difficult argument here, since the refinance was agreed to and you knew it was coming.
Sure, if you bring it up. The problem is that you are doing above and beyond the call of child support. The guidelines rule child support and it is highly unlikely that the court will not set child support in accordance with the guidelines. Instead of looking at it as “we already spend that money on them” you will have to start looking at it as “we have to cut down on some of that spending.” Yes, the children will suffer a little, but that is a decision that she has made, not you. You can let her know this, but this should NEVER be a topic of discussion with the children.
Only if you are asking the court to deviate from the guidelines.
Not likely. You may need to stop doing this if child support makes it prohibitive. You will just have to explain to the children that due to a new debt that you have had to make some household cuts. Talking to children about finances (without the specifics of child support) is appropriate and good for them to understand that sometime budgeting is necessary.
No. Stop offering, since it does not help you and the children are not likely to benefit from it. You need to save the funds to do stuff with the children while in your care. Thank you.
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