Dear lovebug:

Greetings. First, I feel like you are not listening to me. I clearly see how worried you are about the house, paying the bills, cash flow, etc. So, let me try again to alleviate some of your concerns.

If your wife keeps the house, she will have to either pay you half the equity when she refinances or you will be given sufficient assets to equal half of the equity in the marital residence. Either way she will have to refinance the home at some point, although it may be a year or two before she will have to refinance.

You will likely have an alimony obligation. Look at the information on alimony on our website and let me know if you have additional questions.

Finally, you cannot say that “she” has placed her in a private school, since you are paying for it. If you disagreed then you would simply not have paid. I doubt that a judge will stop the child from attending the school unless it is simply not possible now that you will have two separate households to pay for. Best of luck.

Janet L. Fritts
Attorney with Rosen Divorce
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607

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If my wife get the house will I have to continue paying bill there until the divorce is final or will she have to pick up the bills? My oldiest daughter is in a christian private school of her mothers choice. Will I have to pay all of the coast for her to remain there or will it be split between the two of us? Can I ask that my daughter be placed in a public school instead of a christian private school? When do I stop paying bills at that home? How are bills determain until the divorce is final?