We, my spouse and I, are having problems with my wife’s ex-spouse. My wife is the custodial parent and he has scheduled visitation every other Thursday and every other weekend. First, we have asked him repeatedly that we only want him to speak to my wife about the kids. He has said that he “will have always have a relationship with her.” We respect his need to communicate about the children but he never stops there and is always asking the kids about our private information. He also calls the kids several times a day and observes no discretion or respect to our schedule in the house and is very demanding that he can talk to the kids at anytime regardless of what we as a family are doing. He also feels he has a say in thing within our household like what kind of dog we happen to have, what we buy, etc. He also shows up at all of the kid’s extra-curricular activities, we understand his right to do that, but we feel he is abusing the time she is supposed to be having with the kids. He also uses these opportunities to try to socialize with her. He also used to show up at her place of business with out warning.
I think what we want to know is my wife’s rights to her own time with the kids. Can he legally show up to all the activities outside of his visitation? We also want to know any ramifications for him continuing to attempt to talk to my wife despite are request that he communicate via email and only about the kids.