This sort of goes to my other post about my ex and alimony.
One thing he’s threatening is to use as a ‘defense’ when he refuses to pay that he’s “suspicious” of my living arrangements. He knows I’m not literally living with my bf b/c I have my own home, and my girls live in it with me when they are here. But some nights when I Skype the girls, I am at my bf’s (at 6 pm), and he says he’s going to use that to allege that I spend too many nights there, or too much time there or some such thing.
Our agreement only states “cohabitation” according to the NC statute, which I’ve read, and it’s vague–says living as a man and wife. Well we are NOT, that’s for sure. I pay all my own bills, he pays his, we live in the same town, that’s it. Yes, I stay there some nights, he stays here some nights, it’s a mixed bag, but no, we are not “living” together, and he isn’t supporting me in any way, and for me that’s easy to prove, I have bills up the wazoo, and neighbors who would provide affidavits that they know me and have seen me at home.
So what is his burden of proof really, and would the judge take his suspicion at face value and allow that to delay the proceeding? IOW, if he shows up saying “I think she may be living with him, but I have no evidence, can I go get some?” Would the judge allow that, and let him not pay in the interim? Or would she force him to pay (this is a contract btw, NOT a court order in family court–it’s a civil matter I guess?) and say “come back when you have evidence”?
Seems so silly. I mean, if he does that, all I’d have to do is be home every night until the judge rules, even he must realize THAT. I’m also 800 miles away from where he lives, so he can’t exactly camp out in my driveway, he’d have to spend thousands on a P.I. to follow me around, or to my internet company to get my ISP data about where I’ve been and at what hours, but so what? Where I use my phone or computer at 9 pm at night doesn’t tell anyone where I’m LIVING.
Empty threat? OR something to worry about?