I suggest that you contact the clerks office and see if you can get a transcript of the previous court hearing. There may be a small fee. I think that it’s possible that you may end up with the same judge, at least I know they do in family court. That would be great news if you did.
Go through the transcript. Highlight the judge’s comments about the ruling and the evidence. Highlight the judge’s ruling on you paying court costs.
Go through the papers you were served and “answer” in your own words in writing all the allegations. If he has added facts, then make sure that you have proof showing otherwise. If he embellished the facts, then make note of it. If you did not actually harm his military career then highlight where the previous judge ruled on that motion.
Have someone you trust look over all this, since you do not have an attorney. Make copies of all this. Send originals to his attorney.
In the mean time, find that evidence that the judge suggested should have been submitted on the original court day. He’s able to claim “malicious prosecution” because he was not found at fault in the original case and since the evidence was not produced, he can say that you made it up to get back at him for whatever reason…since his career did not actually suffer though I’m not sure what he hopes to gain from this.
Make sure that when/if this does go to court, you address the judge about the attorney’s fees. Make sure that the court knows, if you had the money for attorney’s fees you could afford your own attorney. That the original filing was out of fear for you and your son’s safety and that there was no malicious intent. You have to show that you were not specifically trying to ruin his career…
Make sure that you take a parent, a friend or another family member with you for moral support. No one should have to go to court alone…