Ex-parte ?'s


#1

Hi abused2long!

Thank you so much for reposting this. I too REALLY need these answers and I just can’t get anyone to help me. The DA’s office won’t talk to me, although they keep subpoenaing me to prosecute my husband on three aresst warrants. When I go to court, they treat me like I’m the criminal - the system is SO hard to deal with! I get so frustrated and so depressed and ALL I am trying to do is keep my kids SAFE! I can’t belive all of the hell I am getting for trying to do to the right thing, the good thing. My husnad makes a lot of money and has a lot of influence, so i am getting road blocks put everywhere. NO ONE will answer my questions, so HOW could I know how to prepare for the 2nd ex-parte hearing?? Is the court so concerned about money that they would so willingly overlook the safety of two innocent young (5 & &) little girls. Why won’t they help their mother keep hem safe? It baffles my mind! I am a stay at home om, so I have neglible resources, while my husband makes tons of money and pushes his weight around. Is this justice? Is there a good law firm that would help such a horrible abused victim and kids be safe? How can I come up with 10s of thousands of dollars to save my little girls lives. Are there any good samaritans out here, anyone whose conscious is bothering them? Then, please follow it and help my two little girls, or atleast please answer my questions. I am trying to move mountains to keep my kids safe - can’t anyone else help in the least? Been to the shelter, didn’t help. Can’t get any legal aid. Are ther any pro-bono lawyers with a heart?
JUST PLEASE ANSWER MY QUESTIONS, SO THAT ATLEAST ONE PERSON, THEIR MOM, CAN GO ON FIGHTING FOR HER CHILDREN’S FREEDOM AND SAFETY. Is that so much to ask. Please help abused2long and myself (drew) understand the process at least for the 2nd ex-parte hearing.
Good luck to you abused2long. I’m here for you. Please lean on me for amy support. I know what you are going through and how rough and utterly painful and deoressing it is - ESPECIALLY when NO ONE will help us. I just can’t belive how callous society can be.
I’ll let you know anything I find out, and let’s pool our resources. Atleast we can help each other. Again, best wishes to you abused2long, I’m praying that we will be both successful in the end in helping our kids and changing our lives around for good.
I hear this all the time and it doesn’t help me much, but I’ll say it to you anyway - STAY STRONG, HANG IN THERE, KEEP YOUR HEAD UP HIGH, GO TO COURT AND TELL THE TRUTH, YOU HAVE DONE NOTHING WRONG - YOU ARE THEIR TO FIGHT FOR YOUR RIGHTS AND SEEK JUSTICE, NO MATTER HOW LOW THE SYSTEM TRIES TO MAKE YOU FEEL.
So sorry, you are going through this also.


#2

I wish I could help you. My husband makes very good money and I only make half of what he makes. He hunts with so many of the legal folks and several magistrates in our area. He tells them I am making this up and that he only yells at me because I am not the wife he wants.

It is crazy…I went to my suuport group yesterday and it went well. They are going to go to court for me and I have gotten a legal aid attorney to represent me (no charge).

I am going to have witnesses to testify in court.

If I learn of anything to help you…I will let you know. Thanks for the support and I wish I had the money to help you. It is so heartbreaking when you feel so helpless and feel you cannot protect your family.

Do you have a domestic violence group in your area? They can help tremendously with the questions you have they will go to court with you.

You can get thru it and you will!!! You keep doing what is right.

I am fortunate in the fact that around here Domestice Violence is not tolerated by so many. The judge I have on 1/9 tells it like it is and does not tolerate men beating and demeaning women.

God bless you and keep you and your family safe.


#3

go to www.legalaidnc.org they can provide you with free legal representation for your case if you qualify, there is no income qualification for DV matters, contact them!! They helped me in my DVPO case and it worked wonders for me and they helped me out an awful lot. I owe them my peace of mind that I have today.

Kerry


#4

Would a lwayer from Rosen …PLEASE Repsond to this topic???

Hi, I have a few questions. I would really appreciate any input. Thanks so much!

At the 2nd hearing of the ex-parte 50B DVPO order:
1)Even though an initial ex-parte 50 is supposed be for only 10 days, is it unusual for it to be continued THREE times. I got the initial one back in October, but still haven’t had the second hearing yet (supposedly set for jan. 3rd now).
2) Am I allowed to subpoena witness?

  • will they be heard (judge will allow it?)
  • what if I have out-of-state witness come for the hearing, and it gets continued again? Is it possible that the judge will go head and hear the out-of-state witness atleast?
  • what is the likelihood that it would be continued yet again. I’m just asking if it is rare that the second ex-parte 50B hearing would be delayed more than 3 times, or that is is very probable/normal if it is indeed continued?
  1. How do I go about subpoening people?
  2. What if some/any of the people I subpoena don’t show up?
  3. THIS ONE IS VERY IMPT FOR ME - would it be in the best intrerest at the hearing for me to subpoena my therapist? She has documented three years of dv abuse. Or, will it hurt my case, if I subpoena her?
  4. I would like to ask the judge that my husband gets counseling and the best SUPERVISED visitation. Is there a way I can approach that subject matter, so that the judge will be more likely to see the clear danger and help me keep the kids safe? My husband is very sneaky (Jeckyll and Hyde), so I am so worried that thge judge won’t be able to see past his fake facade.
    What would be the best way to convince the judge not to let my husband see the kids for the rest of entire separation year (during the restraining period)?
    If not, how can I make sure that he only gets supervised visitation?
  5. How does one go about terminating parental rights? My husband now has three outstanding criminal warrants on him (no judgment yet).
    But, I am extremely worried about my children and theor safety.

THANK YOU IN ADVANCE FOR ADVICE AND HELP!

ONE MORE THING, DO LAWYERS OR ROSEN HADLE JUST THE EX-PARTE HEARING PART AND NOT THE WHOLE DIVORCE. I REALLY NEED HELP AT THE 2ND EX-PARTE HEARING? WHAT WOULD ROSEN CHARGE FOR SUCH A SERVICE?

Thanks again and Happy New Year!