Re: Does it matter where the sex acts took place?..As far as court jurisdiction goes…yes. If you want to sue for CC, the sex acts either had to be in NC or agreed to/coerced using communication in NC (i.e. telecommunications through the state…I wish I could explain it better…), otherwise they fall under other jurisdictions and most states do not have AA/CC laws or adultery laws that are still valid and applied.
With CC, forgiveness after the fact doesn’t matter. It is still prosecutable. Only condonation BEFORE the act would create a problem. (With AA, forgiveness does create an issue.)
I agree with comingclean2. I’d investigate legal injunctions for harrassment against her. While the lawsuit actions may or may not be considered harrassment in the state in which she’s filed, sounds like her more personal contact is.
Just my personal suggestions as to what I would do (Helena can tell you what’s viable and what’s better):
1.) Demand paternity testing for the child. (If he is the father, see about having the child support payments managed through the state so that you don’t have to have further contact with the mother.)
2.) Get a legal injunction against any further contact except through your attorney.
3.) Keep every email, voicemail, and/or package sent as evidence. Store them somewhere safe and out of sight so you don’t have to dwell on it.
4.) Refuse to contact or speak with this person further through any means except your attorney. If she calls, hang up. If she emails, don’t reply, just save as evidence.
urgh. I feel for you. Sounds at best a little like borderline personality disorder…at worst…like that Glenn Close/Michael Douglas movie I won’t mention the name of. So sorry you’re going through this…